| Location | Swindon |
| Age | 25 years |
| Date of Birth | 09/03/1981 |
| Date of Death | 31/05/2006 |
| Visitors | 38,894 since 19/03/2008 |
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Alex was born on the 9 March 1981 and died aged 25. He lived with us after his relationship ended
with his long-term girlfriend. He found it hard to deal with as they were together for several
years. He then had an accident which resulted in him undergoing major spinal surgery where he had
to have titanium rods bolted to his spine. He also broke his left shoulder and endured a lot of pain
and distress for two years prior to his death. He went missing on the 31st May 06 after a hospital
appointment. We never saw him again. After a massive search, Alex was found dead on the 9th June at
a local beauty spot. We were devastated to find out he had taken his own life. We never had the
chance to say goodbye properly because the coroner wouldn't allow us to see him. He originally
trained as a circus performer and dancer, and he was an amazing juggler. Although he recovered from
his surgery he was left with reduced mobility in his shoulder and back which was devastating for him
as he could no longer do his acrobatics and juggling. He leaves an older brother Marc, a younger
sister Phoebe, his gran and an aunty who lives in the USA. He also loved Snoopy!
Alex was my youngest son, and his death has left a huge pain in my heart that will never be healed.
He was a very talented, gentle person, with a lovely sense of humour and sparkling personality. I am
very proud that he is my son and I have the greatest respect for his courage and tenacity.
Thankfully we are blessed with lots of lovely memories of happier times. We still expect him to walk
into the room and would give anything to hear the swish of his jeans as he moves about or the thud
of clubs and juggling balls landing on the floor. He is greatly missed - more than he will ever know
and I am struggling to come to terms with his death, three years on.
My biggest distress comes from thinking about what was going through his mind as he was on his own
at the end. My husband and I adored him and caring for him was a large part of our daily routine,
especially in the last two years of his life. We shared so much of his pain and anguish and tried to
make things as easy as possible for him. If only I'd taken him for his appointment - but he was
trying to regain his independence so I let him go on his own. He 'phoned his dad twice to have a
chat when he was on his way to the hospital - my husband says he was happy and upbeat. The
consultant he saw also said the same. Little did we know.
I still cry every day at the thought of never seeing him again and long to hug and kiss him. The
pain is unbearable at times. I love you more than you will ever know sweetheart. Alex - my beautiful
son, you will remain forever in my heart - until we meet again, I send you lots of hugs, kisses and
peaceful thoughts and hope that you are happy wherever you are ~ love Mums xxx
For hazel with love & thanks xxxx
"People are like stained-glass windows.
They sparkle and shine when the sun is out,
but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed
only if there is a light from within."
You have that light within hazel
Thankyou for all your support really means so much to me
Love and hugs Charlotte xxxxxxxxx
A candle to remember, may it burn ever so bright
As we look to the heavens on this very night.
Beyond the stars, our loved one soars
Embraced by his Savior on heaven's shores.
As the angels protect him and sing his sweet name
We honor his life with the glow of this flame.
So we light this candle for our loved one tonight
As a symbol of our love and his eternal life.
With love xxxx
LOVE TO ALEX & Hazel XXX
love to Hazel
I stood by your bed last night;
I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying you found it hard to sleep.
I spoke to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
'It's me, I haven't left you, I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here.'
I was close to you at breakfast,
I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached to me.
I was with you at the shops today; your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.
I was with you at my grave today; you tend it with such care.
I want to re-assure you, that I'm not lying there.
I flew with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently landed on you; I smiled and said, 'it's me.'
You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair. I tried so hard to let you know, that I was there.
It's possible for me, to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, 'I never went away.'
You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew...
in the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.
The day is over... I smile and watch you yawning and say 'good-night, God bless, I'll see you in the morning.'
And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I'll fly across to greet you and we'll stand, side by side.
I have so many things to show you,
there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out...
then come home to be with me.
We have shared our tears and our sorrow,
we have given encouragement to each other,
given hope for a brighter tomorrow
we share the title of grieving mother.
Some of us lost older daughters or sons,
who we watched grow over the years,
some have lost their babies before their lives begun,
but no matter the age, we cry the same tears.
We understand each others pain,
the bond we share is very strong,
with each other there is no need to explain,
the path we walk is hard and long.
Our children brought us together,
they didn't want us on this journey alone,
and they knew we needed each other
to survive the pain of them being gone.
So take my hand my friend,
we may stumble and fall along the way,
but we'll get up and try again,
because together we can make it day by day.
We can give each other hope,
we’ll create a place where we belong,
Together we will find ways to cope,
because we are Angel Mums and together we are strong!
Thnkyou so much for everything you do, your friendship and kindness mean so much to me.
All my love
Cindy - Richard Ashbrooks Mum
xxxxx
Life is but a stopping place,
A pause in what's to be,
A resting place along the road,
To sweet eternity.
We all have different journeys,
Different paths along the way,
We are all meant to learn some things,
But never meant to stay.
Our destination is a place,
Far greater than we know,
For some the journey's quicker,
For some the journey's slow.
But when the journey finally ends,
We'll claim a great reward,
And find an everlasting peace,
Together with the Lord.
Sending love and hugs
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
love to hazel
I stood by your bed last night;
I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying you found it hard to sleep.
I spoke to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
'It's me, I haven't left you, I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here.'
I was close to you at breakfast,
I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached to me.
I was with you at the shops today; your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.
I was with you at my grave today; you tend it with such care.
I want to re-assure you, that I'm not lying there.
I flew with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently landed on you; I smiled and said, 'it's me.'
You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair. I tried so hard to let you know, that I was there.
It's possible for me, to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, 'I never went away.'
You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew...
in the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.
The day is over... I smile and watch you yawning and say 'good-night, God bless, I'll see you in the morning.'
And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I'll fly across to greet you and we'll stand, side by side.
I have so many things to show you,
there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out...
then come home to be with me.
Please don’t cry
For everything in life must die.
I know my days on earth were short
But I learnt everything I needed to be taught.
I’m happy in the heavens above
And I want you to know I will continue to love.
I look down from heavens sky
And I know you will be with me when you die.
I will hold your hand and guide the way
But you must continue to pray
And thank our lord every day
For creating the life you live today.
THIS IS WHAT YOUR LOVED ONES WOULD SAY IF YOU LISTEN CLOSELY TO YOUR HEART XXX
To Those I Love And Those Who Love Me
When I am gone, release me,let me go–
I have so many things to see and do.
You mustn’t tie yourself to me with tears,
Be thankful for our many beautiful years.
I gave to you my love,You can only guess
How much you gave to me in happiness.
I thank you for the love you each have shown,
But now it’s time I traveled on alone.
I won’t be far away,for life goes on
So if you need me, call and I will come.
Though you can’t see or touch me,I’ll be near
All my love around you soft and clear.
And then, when you must come this way alone,
I’ll greet you with a smile and say–
“Welcome Home”
A ROSE ONCE WHERE ALL COULD SEE,
SHELTERED BESIDE A GARDEN WALL.
AND AS THE DAYS PASSED SWIFTLY BY,
IT SPREAD ITS BRANCHES, STRIGHT AND TALL...
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ONE DAY, A BEAM OF LIGHT SHONE THROUGH
A CREVICE THAT HAD OPENED WIDE-
THE ROSE BENT GENTLY TOWARDS ITS WARMTH
THEN PASSED BEYOND TO THE OTHER SIDE...
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NOW,WE WHO DEEPLY FEELS ITS LOSS,
BE COMFORTED-THE ROSE BLOOMS THERE-
ITS BEAUTY EVEN GREATER NOW,
NURTURED BY GOD'S OWN LOVING CARE.
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WITH LOVE AS ALWAYS LINDA.XXX
CHER (PAULINE N ROBERT MCGREGORS DAUGHTER)
WE WILL NEVER FORGET YOU.
We do not need a special day
To bring you to our minds.
The days we do not think of you
Are very hard to find.
Each morning when we awake,
We know that you are gone.
And no one knows the heart ache
As we try to carry on.
Our hearts still ache with sadness
And secret tears still flow.
What it meant to lose you
No one will ever know.
Our thoughts are always with you,
Your place no one can fill.
In life we loved you dearly;
In death we love you still.xxx
X~~ALL MY LOVE TO YOU FROM CHER~~X
![](http://www.gonetoosoon.org/file/gift__91x91/dd88883973c116ba9cbf7c2ec22e85af/sbutterfly---blue.jpg ""There are special people in our lives who never leave us -- even after they are gone."
Very special on earth - very special in Heaven.
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers always, dear Alex xxx")
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